I dare you to say they taste the same.

8:38am: Meet the Predators
"Lisak & Miller also answered their other question: are rapists responsible for more violence generally? Yes. The surveys covered other violent acts, such as slapping or choking an intimate partner, physically or sexually abusing a child, and sexual assaults other than attempted or completed rapes. In the realm of being partner- and child-beating monsters, the repeat rapists really stood out. These 76 men, just 4% of the sample, were responsible for 28% of the reported violence. The whole sample of almost 1900 men reported just under 4000 violent acts, but this 4% of recidivist rapists results in over 1000 of those violent acts.

If we could eliminate the men who rape again and again and again, a quarter of the violence against women and children would disappear. That's the public policy implication."

http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2009/11/meet-predators.html

11:18pm: And today in Insulting and Demeaning...


Warrioress? Really?! Halloween costumes have plenty of problems, but this just infuriates me.

11:30am: Occasionally, I'm inspired to post.
Rape Culture 101

It's exactly as necessary and difficult to read as it sounds.

11:50pm: THIS
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_a7jkcMVp5Vg/Sqxn2UmRivI/AAAAAAAAJz8/h5GCNvn9cdg/s400/makeroom.jpg

10:58pm: It's too hot and I'm full of hatred. It might be because I've been sick and have had fragmented sleep for a week. It might be because it hurts every time I swallow, and I have to push down what little bits of food I can manage so that all the pills - I'm on the second round, since the infection isn't totally gone after a week of a bunch of antibiotics, and I have abscesses - don't make me nauseous on top of everything else. Giant pills when it hurts like hell every time I even swallow a smidgen of applesauce are fun.

I guess I'll just have to hope that I can sleep tonight.

5:21pm: FTM Solutions is awesome. OMG. Seriously, the STP cost me like half what other places do, and it got here really fast. I've got the harness worked out (I had to watch the video again, but I have the memory of a goldfish anyway), so now I just have to practice with this crazy, squishy thing! :D

In other news, work still sucks. The end.

8:33pm: once escorted

This is amazing and wrenching.

1:32pm: Fat Hatred Kills, Part One

(I find it particularly ironic that I have one of those stupid flat stomach ads being displayed to me as I write this post.)

9:36am:

The representation of unrestrained appetite as inappropriate for women, the depiction of female eating as a private, transgressive act, make restriction and denial of hunger central features of the construction of femininity and set up the compensatory binge as a virtual inevitability. Such restrictions on appetite, moreover, are not merely about food intake. Rather, the social control of female hunger operates as a practical ‘discipline’ (to use Foucault's term) that trains female bodies in the knowledge of their limits and their possibilities. Denying oneself food becomes the central micro-practice in the education of feminine self-restraint and containment of impulse.

–Susan Bordo, “Hunger as Ideology” (from Unbearable Weight, Feminism, Western Culture, and the Body)

The post is definitely worth a read. I need to start picking up some of these kinds of books, too, for how much I love the analysis.

2:28pm: Paring down flist. Not here much, don't comment much, not enough spoons and too much stress. Nothing personal against anyone.

5:51pm: :DDDDDDDDDDDD
Victory in Iowa

"The Iowa Supreme Court issued a unanimous ruling Friday finding that the state's same-sex marriage ban violates the constitutional rights of gay and lesbian couples, making Iowa the third state where marriage will be legal."

8:23pm: Let's pile on a sick day.
Having a really bad flare-up of Crohn's. I'm probably staying home tomorrow. I can't move without it hurting, I can't eat or drink anything no matter how hungry or thirsty I get... It's not what I'd call fun. And on top of that, I'm still worried about these two songs. I was hoping to work on the third tonight, but I don't know if I can think clearly enough when I'm in pain. But in the meantime, no point in going insane.

A very uplifting thread can be found here.

The money's looking up, since I couldn't get a hotel booked for comic-con. The refund came really quickly. I'm pretty impressed.

My path to greatness might be there yet, but. It might be washed out.

3:11pm: It's a strange thought, how many people I know would be unrecognizable without the pre-programmed identity markers I already have. Disorienting.

11:14pm: I don't do memes too often, but...
If you think that anyone can be guilty of making a racist comment or performing a racist act, including you, and that you are willing to take ownership of your statements and actions, resist blaming the person who was offended, figure out why they were taken as racist, apologize, and not do it again, post this exact sentence in your journal.

(Privilege: I'm soaking in it. I've said some damn offensive things in earlier years, and I'm positive I'll say something damn offensive at least once more, probably many times.)

1:43pm: Buried Prejudice: The Bigot in Your Brain
http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?id=buried-prejudice-the-bigot-in-your-brain

1:26pm: A rec, surprisingly.
http://chaosmanor.insanejournal.com/81881.html

This made me cry, and I can't really even express how much I loved it.

12:47am: A post that I read and loved, and came upon again.
Let's put this shit to bed right now: Women don't lose their minds when they have period-related irritability. It doesn't lower their ability to reason; it lowers their patience and, hence, tolerance for bullshit. If an issue comes up a lot during "that time of the month," that doesn't mean she only cares about it once a month; it means she's bothered by it all the time and lacks the capacity, once a month, to shove it down and bury it beneath six gulps of willful silence.

4:13pm: Do we have to use trees to make paper?

7:36pm: The Dialectic of Sex

2:57pm: I've never seen the Barbara Kruger's art before, other than one icon, and unwittingly at that, and it is utterly fascinating and amazing. I especially love this one.

3:30pm: An essay that I found again:
How Fanfiction Makes Us Poor, by cupidsbow

ETA: Actually, everything under the women/writing tag is worth its reading weight in gold.

9:09pm: Persistent Poverty - an interesting, detailed post of situations and proposed solutions.

11:45pm:

Nine-year-old girl is youngest person to become Microsoft Certified Professional

9:08pm: Lazy paranoid itchy skin lockdown, cyclical and unavoidable I need I need it I have to. I feel wrong all over and maybe it's the short sun bursts, maybe it's just me, looking at tiny rows of tiny pills and wondering if there should be little repair pods circling my electric circuits and I don't know but I can't take it sometimes.

It'll pass.

9:33pm:

The idiot's guide to the principle of intentions vs. effects.

I gotta say, I love this blog. Not as much as Shakesville or IBTP, of course, but the way everything is laid out and connected, as well as the actionable part in the box, is really great. I'm probably going to wander back over to Shakesville, on that note...